The behaviors that are causing us difficulty in our present life are the same behaviors which helped us manage our childhood environment. However, now, they sometimes hinder our growth and capacity to enjoy life. It is like each of us has built a fortress (our defenses) to keep out the invaders. But the enemy has gone, and we either act as if the enemy are still here; or even if we know they are gone, we can’t find the way out of our fortress. These defenses are our beliefs, images, and thoughts about our reality, especially our interpersonal world. The body functions as the unconscious. Because it was too painful to continue to have needs that weren't met, our body stiffens and blocks against experiencing and expressing certain feelings and needs. For instance, if when we were sad or hurt and needed comfort and reached out to our caretakers and they didn’t meet our need; or even worse, shamed us, we developed a constriction between our shoulder blades to prevent even the feeling of the impulse to reach with our arms. We may then also have develped a core belief, that we have to manage on our own. So, as a somatic/bioenergetic analyst, I am reading the body to make a developmental diagnosis of when the trauma occurred, as well as to see how the somatic holdings are still preventing the client from feeling or having certain needs met. Shock trauma (accidents, surgeries, physical and sexual abuse, natural disasters, etc.) are also held in the body and are currently maintaining certain fixed patterns of arousal, dis/ ease, and pain. Finally, I truly believe that therapy is relational. Clients enter therapy with transference tests for us that hopefully, we as therapists can pass and help the client manage. Some of what goes on is conscious, but much of it is unconscious and often processed through the client and the therapist’s bodies. Because I am a somatic therapist, I am much more attuned to my own somatic experience, and try to process the somatosensory experience through my own body. A final goal of therapy is to help clients realize we can’t predict the outcome of our behavior, but we can maintain our own integrity and try to detach from expectations or beliefs that tend to lead to disappointment. I have a Buddha sitting in front of my office. It is a reminder to me that what happens is not about my ego, but part of a larger force in the interchange that is called,”psychotherapy”.